Good morning, Diva! I am up and at ’em early this morning, ready to make this a great week and I hope you will too! Last week in class, I challenged January’s Divas to (gasp!) adopt a new way of thinking and it involves a seemingly simple concept:
Just say YES.
In my 20s I spent a lot of time in the practice of SAYING NO. Pass on a new project, disagree respectfully with someone, say no to a time commitment, or simply just reject opinions or behaviors that didn’t jive with my way of thinking. I felt empowered, like Miss Independent – you mean I can just “say no” and I can have everything exactly MY WAY? “Saying no” became such the thing to do until I recently realized that I crossed that fine line between empowered and independent and dismissive, quick to decide, and lacking empathy. Ew!
How often are we quick to disagree? Punch holes in an idea or plan? Prepare our own response back to someone before we’ve heard their full point? Immediately dismissed a new idea or point of view? Decided you need to “pass,” say “NO” (asserting your independence), or what about thinking of all the reasons why something won’t work, rather than focusing on how to make it work?
If any of this sounds like something you may have done once or twice, I invite you to try something new…
Just say yes.
TRY THIS: Take 3 post-it notes and write YES! (including the exclamation mark) on them. Stick these in three places you will see them every day. This is a reminder to you that when you may start to say “no” to re-think your knee-jerk reaction. Consider the other opinion, suggestion, or way of doing business. Even if you still aren’t aligned with the other person or situation, the act of considering whether your opinion is the “be all end all” is an amazing exercise in mindfulness.